Paul and I were social butterflies this weekend... well sorta... compared to how we usually are.
When I escaped from work on Friday, I went home to my parents, the girls and Paul. Lily, my father and I went to do some grocery shopping so we could have food and not be hungry. We dined on steaks for dinner. Yummy. Lily decided she would grace us with a new "trick" at bedtime... its called, "I'm not staying in my bedroom and I won't go to sleep".... of course she pulls this for the first time when Paul and I are trying to leave to go out. I was standing at the bottom of the stairs just watching her, she'd come out of her room, with a blanket, walk down the hall to our bedroom and put the blanket in our bed, then she'd walk back to her room, get another blanket, and do the same thing. I asked her what she was doing and she told me she was going "night night mommy bed"... ummm no. Its one thing when she curls up there in the morning for some snuggles, but its a whole different thing when Paul and I aren't even there. She was just stalling bedtime. Paul and I kept going up and down the stairs, ushering her back into bed. Finally around 9 she was quiet and didn't come out of her room... so away Paul and I went. We met Jana and her boyfriend out to dinner and drinks in New Paltz. We had a nice time. It was great catching up with Jana (I hadn't seen her since my wedding 3 1/2 years ago, I know, I'm a bad friend!). We remininsced about our crazy college days, how stupid we were, but more importantly, how much fun we had. Paul and I got home a little after midnight, and I know I was exhausted!!!
Saturday, my mother, Lily and I went to gym class. We had a nice time together. When Paul got home from work, we drove down to NYC for a nice romantic dinner. We ate at a little Roman Italian restaurant that we know the owner of. We had a great meal, great wine, great dessert, and most importantly, great conversation. The girls behaved wonderfully for my parents, and Jules even slept through the night. YAY. It was the first time I had left both girls alone at bedtime. I'm really pleased that everything went well.
Sunday was spent SHOPPING. I bought some gifts for a bridal shower I am going to this coming weekend and I bought a dress for the wedding in July. I"m not certain I love the dress. I had wanted something with sleeves or thicker straps, but ended up getting a halter dress. Now the hard part of finding a good bra. Eeeek I hate that. The girls, my parents and I went out to dinner. They behaved so well, and we really had a great time.
All in all it was a really nice weekend. I loved spending the extra time with my parents, and really enjoyed the time out with Paul.
Tuesday, May 29, 2007
Thursday, May 24, 2007
so many directions
I got yelled at yesterday by my best friend from college.... about how I don't update my blog and pictures enough... Sorry Rachael!
So todays blog is going to be more of a vent than anything else, so I'll apologize in advance for that.
Do you ever feel like you are pulled in a million different directions? I've been feeling like that a lot recently. I strive to be a great mom, a great wife, a great friend, a great employee, a great daughter, etc. The list goes on. I know that as women we are all trying to be the best and the perfect one. I'm not stupid, I know that I won't be able to achieve perfection, that goal has long since left me. My goal now is just to do the best I can with what I have. And for the most part, its been working out pretty well. I think I have a good marriage, a good relationship with my kids, people at work seem to like me... but even with all of that, I keep thinking I should be doing more. Like I said last month, the status quo just isn't cutting it. Changes need to be made.
I'm not certain on the types of changes yet... but I feel like I need to de-clutter my life. I feel like I just have so much going on and I wish that I was able to devote myself to one or two or even just three of the roles that I'm required to fulfill every day. Part of me would love to be a stay-at-home mother. I really think I'd do well in that role. But the larger part of me knows that my career is important as well, and I'm determined to show everyone that you can have it all as a mother. You can be a great mom, a great wife and a great career woman. I don't have a very demanding job, but I do have my busy days. I'm truly blessed that my job allows me time with my children and that overtime isn't required. But with all this being said, I still feel the need to do better.
This weekend is going to be wierd..... on Friday I'm going to work on being a better friend. One of my friends from college, Jana, is going to be in the area and we are planning on meeting up for a drink or dinner. I haven't seen her since my wedding, over three years ago, so its long overdue. I'll be leaving both girls in the care of my more than capable parents, so everything should work out. On Saturday I'm going to be working on being a better wife. Paul and I have plans to go out to dinner down in NYC. We are going to one of our favorite restaurants, and my parents will be watching the girls from around 3pm till around 10 or 11pm... the longest I've ever left both girls. They will obviously putting the girls to bed and doing baths.... this makes me a bit nervous. I've only been away from Julia at bedtime once in 10 months, but daddy was there. I know my parents will be fine, and I'm going to spend the evening concentrating on my marriage and my relationship with Paul.
I can't remember the last time I went out two nights in a row without the girls. I really don't think I ever have. LOL, I'm such a mom... and to be quite honest I would never want it any other way.
So todays blog is going to be more of a vent than anything else, so I'll apologize in advance for that.
Do you ever feel like you are pulled in a million different directions? I've been feeling like that a lot recently. I strive to be a great mom, a great wife, a great friend, a great employee, a great daughter, etc. The list goes on. I know that as women we are all trying to be the best and the perfect one. I'm not stupid, I know that I won't be able to achieve perfection, that goal has long since left me. My goal now is just to do the best I can with what I have. And for the most part, its been working out pretty well. I think I have a good marriage, a good relationship with my kids, people at work seem to like me... but even with all of that, I keep thinking I should be doing more. Like I said last month, the status quo just isn't cutting it. Changes need to be made.
I'm not certain on the types of changes yet... but I feel like I need to de-clutter my life. I feel like I just have so much going on and I wish that I was able to devote myself to one or two or even just three of the roles that I'm required to fulfill every day. Part of me would love to be a stay-at-home mother. I really think I'd do well in that role. But the larger part of me knows that my career is important as well, and I'm determined to show everyone that you can have it all as a mother. You can be a great mom, a great wife and a great career woman. I don't have a very demanding job, but I do have my busy days. I'm truly blessed that my job allows me time with my children and that overtime isn't required. But with all this being said, I still feel the need to do better.
This weekend is going to be wierd..... on Friday I'm going to work on being a better friend. One of my friends from college, Jana, is going to be in the area and we are planning on meeting up for a drink or dinner. I haven't seen her since my wedding, over three years ago, so its long overdue. I'll be leaving both girls in the care of my more than capable parents, so everything should work out. On Saturday I'm going to be working on being a better wife. Paul and I have plans to go out to dinner down in NYC. We are going to one of our favorite restaurants, and my parents will be watching the girls from around 3pm till around 10 or 11pm... the longest I've ever left both girls. They will obviously putting the girls to bed and doing baths.... this makes me a bit nervous. I've only been away from Julia at bedtime once in 10 months, but daddy was there. I know my parents will be fine, and I'm going to spend the evening concentrating on my marriage and my relationship with Paul.
I can't remember the last time I went out two nights in a row without the girls. I really don't think I ever have. LOL, I'm such a mom... and to be quite honest I would never want it any other way.
Tuesday, May 22, 2007
"I told you!"
"I told you!" is Lily's new favorite phrase. Everytime I come home from work, she greets me in the window, yelling "Mommy came home!" then she looks at her father and says "I told you!". Because apparently Lily tells Daddy that Mommy is coming home from work, and apparently Paul doesn't believe her... so Lily must remind him of the fact that she told him so!
Lily is turning into quite the animated child. Her tone of voice is very high, so high in fact that the speech therapist thinks that it hinders her ability to pronounciate her words correctly. She says everything with such conviction and dramatics. She is definitely the drama queen in the house. I find it incredibly amusing to listen to her all day long.
Yesterday I took her and Julia grocery shopping, then out for ice cream after. As we are driving in the car, Lily is singing every single song she knows. This includes, "Itsy Bitsy Spider", "Rock-a-by-baby", "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star", and the ABCs. She also likes to count down from 10... and when she gets to one, she says "Blast off!". As I'm driving, I'm sitting there laughing my butt off, because I just find her to be so funny.
I think this is one of the best parts of motherhood. Seeing your child get so much joy and excitement out of the littles of things, its truly amazing. I love watching her learn things and experience things for the first time. We were playing outside the other day, and she's picking all the old dandelions, ya know the ones where you blow and the white stuff gets everywhere... anyways, she is trying to blow them and really just getting mouthfuls of the stuff... but of course she thought it was the funniest thing...
Yesterday I went to visit a pre-school that Lily will probably go to. I am not 100% sure I am comfortable with it though. I feel blocked in by my choices. Because of her speech issues, we feel that we want a pre-school program that has speech therapy included. Well this obviously really narrows our choices. We have 3 choices in our area. Both Paul and I would prefer a 3 day a week program, because we think that would be an easier transition for Lily. Well that leaves one school left, the one I visited yesteray. Luckily this school is building a new site, and it will be finished in August, so thats a definite plus. The class she would be in seems small, only about 7-8 kids, so thats good as well. There is an early childhood teacher and a speech therapist in the room. The kids also receive some music therapy as well. What I wasn't impressed with was the size of the room, it seemed rather small and cramped. The supplies and books seemed outdated and old. I also wasn't impressed with the snacks... I saw kids drinking capri-suns and eating cheetos... at 10am. So not ok in my book. I asked if snacks were something that was provided by the school or the parents. I didn't really get a straight answer. The woman leading the tour said that sometimes one parent was responsible for providing snacks one day a week, or sometimes they brought their own. I'm certainly not ok with some stranger buying a bag of cheetos on the way to preschool. yuck. I'm hoping we can get another tour soon, and that Paul and I can actually sit down with her teachers and talk to them directly. I'd like to know how long they have been teaching and their backgrounds as well.
Lily is turning into quite the animated child. Her tone of voice is very high, so high in fact that the speech therapist thinks that it hinders her ability to pronounciate her words correctly. She says everything with such conviction and dramatics. She is definitely the drama queen in the house. I find it incredibly amusing to listen to her all day long.
Yesterday I took her and Julia grocery shopping, then out for ice cream after. As we are driving in the car, Lily is singing every single song she knows. This includes, "Itsy Bitsy Spider", "Rock-a-by-baby", "Twinkle Twinkle Little Star", and the ABCs. She also likes to count down from 10... and when she gets to one, she says "Blast off!". As I'm driving, I'm sitting there laughing my butt off, because I just find her to be so funny.
I think this is one of the best parts of motherhood. Seeing your child get so much joy and excitement out of the littles of things, its truly amazing. I love watching her learn things and experience things for the first time. We were playing outside the other day, and she's picking all the old dandelions, ya know the ones where you blow and the white stuff gets everywhere... anyways, she is trying to blow them and really just getting mouthfuls of the stuff... but of course she thought it was the funniest thing...
Yesterday I went to visit a pre-school that Lily will probably go to. I am not 100% sure I am comfortable with it though. I feel blocked in by my choices. Because of her speech issues, we feel that we want a pre-school program that has speech therapy included. Well this obviously really narrows our choices. We have 3 choices in our area. Both Paul and I would prefer a 3 day a week program, because we think that would be an easier transition for Lily. Well that leaves one school left, the one I visited yesteray. Luckily this school is building a new site, and it will be finished in August, so thats a definite plus. The class she would be in seems small, only about 7-8 kids, so thats good as well. There is an early childhood teacher and a speech therapist in the room. The kids also receive some music therapy as well. What I wasn't impressed with was the size of the room, it seemed rather small and cramped. The supplies and books seemed outdated and old. I also wasn't impressed with the snacks... I saw kids drinking capri-suns and eating cheetos... at 10am. So not ok in my book. I asked if snacks were something that was provided by the school or the parents. I didn't really get a straight answer. The woman leading the tour said that sometimes one parent was responsible for providing snacks one day a week, or sometimes they brought their own. I'm certainly not ok with some stranger buying a bag of cheetos on the way to preschool. yuck. I'm hoping we can get another tour soon, and that Paul and I can actually sit down with her teachers and talk to them directly. I'd like to know how long they have been teaching and their backgrounds as well.
Monday, May 21, 2007
why i should write things down
I really need to be more careful about writing things down in my planner. I am so like my mother in this regard. If I don't write it down, I can promise you it probably won't get done.
This morning before work I noticed the answering machine light blinking. My first thought was that there was some emergency at Paul's job and he would have to go in. I listened to the message and found out that the open house for the pre-school that we want Lily to go to is today. I wrote it down when I had found out about it.... but it didn't make it into my planner, so I had completely forgotten about it.
This is soooooo something my mother would do.
My exciting morning doesn't stop here. I get to work and notice that there are no lights on. Apparently the clinic lost power sometime over the weekend. I'm working with no lights, no phone, and praying my laptop battery doesn't die on me. I even had to pee in a pitchdark bathroom. Fun times.
Anyways, just the makings of a fun Monday morning.
This past week we cut out one of Julia's bottles. She is now down to three 6 ounce bottles of breastmilk a day, with the occasional couple of ounces at night. She seems to be doing well with it. She did wake up two times the other night, but she's cutting tooth #7 and #8 so I expected her sleep patterns would be disturbed a bit. With her taking less bottles, I'm still having to pump around the clock just to keep up. But I keep telling myself its worth it, its only 2 more months and I can do it. I don't think I'll stop pumping at a year, but you can bet your butt I won't be pumping at work anymore. I'll probably pump in the mornings, when I get home from work, and once before bed. I'm hoping by 12 months to have her down to one bottle, so I'm hoping my expectations are pretty reasonable.
I'm excited for this week! My parents are coming to visit on Thursday night. I can't wait to see them and spend some time with them. Its been far too long. Paul and I are planning a night out on Saturday. We are planning to go to one of our favorite restaurants down in NYC. We haven't been there since January of 2006, so a great meal is definitely due! We always seem to go there when I'm pregnant, so I'm looking forward not to being pregnant while we are there, haha.
This morning before work I noticed the answering machine light blinking. My first thought was that there was some emergency at Paul's job and he would have to go in. I listened to the message and found out that the open house for the pre-school that we want Lily to go to is today. I wrote it down when I had found out about it.... but it didn't make it into my planner, so I had completely forgotten about it.
This is soooooo something my mother would do.
My exciting morning doesn't stop here. I get to work and notice that there are no lights on. Apparently the clinic lost power sometime over the weekend. I'm working with no lights, no phone, and praying my laptop battery doesn't die on me. I even had to pee in a pitchdark bathroom. Fun times.
Anyways, just the makings of a fun Monday morning.
This past week we cut out one of Julia's bottles. She is now down to three 6 ounce bottles of breastmilk a day, with the occasional couple of ounces at night. She seems to be doing well with it. She did wake up two times the other night, but she's cutting tooth #7 and #8 so I expected her sleep patterns would be disturbed a bit. With her taking less bottles, I'm still having to pump around the clock just to keep up. But I keep telling myself its worth it, its only 2 more months and I can do it. I don't think I'll stop pumping at a year, but you can bet your butt I won't be pumping at work anymore. I'll probably pump in the mornings, when I get home from work, and once before bed. I'm hoping by 12 months to have her down to one bottle, so I'm hoping my expectations are pretty reasonable.
I'm excited for this week! My parents are coming to visit on Thursday night. I can't wait to see them and spend some time with them. Its been far too long. Paul and I are planning a night out on Saturday. We are planning to go to one of our favorite restaurants down in NYC. We haven't been there since January of 2006, so a great meal is definitely due! We always seem to go there when I'm pregnant, so I'm looking forward not to being pregnant while we are there, haha.
Monday, May 14, 2007
Happy Mother's Day
We had a nice weekend. Erin and Krista joined us for dinner on Saturday. Yummy food with equally yummy conversation. It was nice to visit with friends. Lily, Krista and I baked cookies which was lots of fun. Lily referred to Erin as "that one", which was cute. She requested that Krista give her a bath, comb her hair and read her books before bed.
Jules decided to remind us who was boss.... she had been sleeping a 12 hour night for 4 nights in a row... then all of a sudden the past two nights its back to nightwakings and early mornings. I hope that she goes back to sleeping through the night soon, I was kinda getting used to it!
Yesterday the girls gave me Mother's Day cards (which Paul picked out obviously), they were quite funny. Lily kept saying that mommy had mail. We then took my mother-in-law out for breakfast. We gave her silver heart earrings that had 2 rubies (the girls' birthstones) and a small diamond in them. She loved them.... well at least she said she did. She gave me chocolate covered strawberries, a beautiful card, and a giftcard for the mall (which she instructed was to only be used for me). After brunch we came home and relaxed. Paul got me a necklace from Tiffany's... he ordered it online. But for some reason they sent him a bracelet. Its not even the same style. The necklace has 5 open hearts on it, but the bracelet they sent has small teardrops... so he is going to exchange it, since I'd rather have the necklace.
Paul worked last night and the girls took decent naps, so all in all it was a good evening and a great Mother's Day.
Last Wednesday Paul and I met with a neuro-psychologist that we were hoping would complete the neuro-psych eval for Lily. After speaking to the psychologist, we learned a few things and now have some decisions to make. According to them, neuro-psych evals are normally done closer to the age of 4, and seeing how Lily isn't even 3 yet, they aren't sure whether or not it would be beneficial yet. They did suggest an OT eval because of some of her sensory issues she has. Our pediatrician has also suggested Sensory Integration Therapy for her, and we are now working on scheduling the OT eval to start this. We just need to find an OT that works primarily with sensory stuff, because a lot of them mainly work with fine motor skills. We also found out that the neuro-psych eval is very similar to the psych eval she will get done through the school district before she starts preschool. However, after speaking to another mother in our area that is going through something simliar... the neuro-psych eval would be a little different and would provide a more "medical" eval more than just the standard IQ testing that the psych eval does. We have a friend that is a psychologist in the school district, so I might give her a call and talk to her about what the eval she does includes. We also found out that our insurance company does not cover the neuro-psych eval when its done in regards to developmental delays, disabilities or suspected autism... and without insurance it runs $1,000. Obviously if we need it, we'll pay for it... but given the fact its not normally done till the age of 4, and the fact its so close to the psych eval she is already getting done, I'm questioning whether or not we need to do this now, or later.
Jules decided to remind us who was boss.... she had been sleeping a 12 hour night for 4 nights in a row... then all of a sudden the past two nights its back to nightwakings and early mornings. I hope that she goes back to sleeping through the night soon, I was kinda getting used to it!
Yesterday the girls gave me Mother's Day cards (which Paul picked out obviously), they were quite funny. Lily kept saying that mommy had mail. We then took my mother-in-law out for breakfast. We gave her silver heart earrings that had 2 rubies (the girls' birthstones) and a small diamond in them. She loved them.... well at least she said she did. She gave me chocolate covered strawberries, a beautiful card, and a giftcard for the mall (which she instructed was to only be used for me). After brunch we came home and relaxed. Paul got me a necklace from Tiffany's... he ordered it online. But for some reason they sent him a bracelet. Its not even the same style. The necklace has 5 open hearts on it, but the bracelet they sent has small teardrops... so he is going to exchange it, since I'd rather have the necklace.
Paul worked last night and the girls took decent naps, so all in all it was a good evening and a great Mother's Day.
Last Wednesday Paul and I met with a neuro-psychologist that we were hoping would complete the neuro-psych eval for Lily. After speaking to the psychologist, we learned a few things and now have some decisions to make. According to them, neuro-psych evals are normally done closer to the age of 4, and seeing how Lily isn't even 3 yet, they aren't sure whether or not it would be beneficial yet. They did suggest an OT eval because of some of her sensory issues she has. Our pediatrician has also suggested Sensory Integration Therapy for her, and we are now working on scheduling the OT eval to start this. We just need to find an OT that works primarily with sensory stuff, because a lot of them mainly work with fine motor skills. We also found out that the neuro-psych eval is very similar to the psych eval she will get done through the school district before she starts preschool. However, after speaking to another mother in our area that is going through something simliar... the neuro-psych eval would be a little different and would provide a more "medical" eval more than just the standard IQ testing that the psych eval does. We have a friend that is a psychologist in the school district, so I might give her a call and talk to her about what the eval she does includes. We also found out that our insurance company does not cover the neuro-psych eval when its done in regards to developmental delays, disabilities or suspected autism... and without insurance it runs $1,000. Obviously if we need it, we'll pay for it... but given the fact its not normally done till the age of 4, and the fact its so close to the psych eval she is already getting done, I'm questioning whether or not we need to do this now, or later.
Monday, May 7, 2007
busy weekend
This past weekend was pretty busy. Lily and I went to gym class on Saturday. Lily had a great time, as usual. She walked on the balance beam all by herself! She is getting really good and flipping over the bars too... my little gymnast!
Saturday afternoon when Paul got off of work, we took the girls to the mall and bought a new mattress for the guest bedroom. We had been considering getting a king size bed for ourselves, but realistically we didn't really have the money to do that this year, so we are hoping next year to do that. Our plan is to move our queen set into the guest room, give Lily the new one we just bought, and move Lily's twin bed into Jules' room for her... so next year we will play "musical beds"... lol
Sunday morning Lily and I started our shopping around 8:30am... we went to Walmart, the grocery store, then I headed up to Target, Old Navy and H & M.... I was in search for the perfect pajamas for Jules... I ended up getting laundry done, the house vacuumed, bathroom cleaned and kitchen mopped. So all in all it was a busy weekend. I'm actually pretty happy to be at work today, so I can catch up here and with other stuff online.
Saturday afternoon when Paul got off of work, we took the girls to the mall and bought a new mattress for the guest bedroom. We had been considering getting a king size bed for ourselves, but realistically we didn't really have the money to do that this year, so we are hoping next year to do that. Our plan is to move our queen set into the guest room, give Lily the new one we just bought, and move Lily's twin bed into Jules' room for her... so next year we will play "musical beds"... lol
Sunday morning Lily and I started our shopping around 8:30am... we went to Walmart, the grocery store, then I headed up to Target, Old Navy and H & M.... I was in search for the perfect pajamas for Jules... I ended up getting laundry done, the house vacuumed, bathroom cleaned and kitchen mopped. So all in all it was a busy weekend. I'm actually pretty happy to be at work today, so I can catch up here and with other stuff online.
Tuesday, May 1, 2007
ugggg
Ugggggg, what a long weekend. It had the potential to be kinda nice... but after a certain situation on Saturday evening, I had a sour taste in my mouth for the remainder of the weekend.
Saturday started pretty normally, my mother in law came over to watch Julia, so that I could take Lily to gym class. Lily decided she didn't want to wait her turn in class and ended up having a pretty good tantrum where she pulled my hair, bit me, the whole nine yards... so we had a time out right there. I'm a mean mommy. As soon as we get done with gym class Lily informed me she wanted to go to grammy's house and told me to pack her bag... LOL. Wilma was all to happy to have her over, and I knew she would have a good time, so I agreed. Jules and I spent the remainder of the afternoon cleaning house. That evening we (Paul, Jules and I) went out to dinner with my inlaws, my sister in law and Lily. We went out for sushi, yummmmmy! I was happy to go out to dinner with everyone and thought it would be fun. hahaha. Two certain family members decided to take it upon themselves to give my nine month old SAKI. I was and still am truly discusted and completely upset about it. My sister in law put her finger in her glass of saki, then put her finger in Jules' mouth 3 friggen times. HELLO, are you stupid? Apparently. Paul told her not to, and she told him to "relax, it will help her gums".... I was FUMING. I still am. Then my fil let her suck on an empty bottle of saki, and again, Paul told him no, I pulled out a teether and offered that instead. We were both completely ignored. I wanted to leave right then and there, I wanted to bring Lily home with me, I wanted to smack my sister in law, I was so angry.
Anyways, we get home, and I decide that ok, Lily can spend the night there, but in the future I'm not leaving either of my children alone with my sister in law, and I'm not letting Lily spend the night at my inlaws when my sister in law is visiting... and it will be a very very very very long time before I let Jules over there regardless.
I trust my mother in law, I really do, I have a great relationship with her. I honestly do. But I think that it is important to feel listened to and validated. I mean come on, Paul and I are the parents, not them. If we say no to something then guess what... the answer is no. Imagine that...
Now I know and accept the fact that grandparents spoil grandkids. I expect Lily to get to stay up late and watch tv and eat lots of cookies when she is there... heck thats the fun part of having grandparents, right? I know this, I accept it. But come on now, you don't give a nine month old SAKI... are you insane?
Ok maybe I'm writing out of anger, but I think I have a legitimate reason to be upset. I know I'm venting, but honestly everything I've written here, I'd say to her face, so I don't feel bad about it. I know that she loves my kids, but she needs to understand, that they are MY kids well mine and Paul's... NOT HERS.
Saturday started pretty normally, my mother in law came over to watch Julia, so that I could take Lily to gym class. Lily decided she didn't want to wait her turn in class and ended up having a pretty good tantrum where she pulled my hair, bit me, the whole nine yards... so we had a time out right there. I'm a mean mommy. As soon as we get done with gym class Lily informed me she wanted to go to grammy's house and told me to pack her bag... LOL. Wilma was all to happy to have her over, and I knew she would have a good time, so I agreed. Jules and I spent the remainder of the afternoon cleaning house. That evening we (Paul, Jules and I) went out to dinner with my inlaws, my sister in law and Lily. We went out for sushi, yummmmmy! I was happy to go out to dinner with everyone and thought it would be fun. hahaha. Two certain family members decided to take it upon themselves to give my nine month old SAKI. I was and still am truly discusted and completely upset about it. My sister in law put her finger in her glass of saki, then put her finger in Jules' mouth 3 friggen times. HELLO, are you stupid? Apparently. Paul told her not to, and she told him to "relax, it will help her gums".... I was FUMING. I still am. Then my fil let her suck on an empty bottle of saki, and again, Paul told him no, I pulled out a teether and offered that instead. We were both completely ignored. I wanted to leave right then and there, I wanted to bring Lily home with me, I wanted to smack my sister in law, I was so angry.
Anyways, we get home, and I decide that ok, Lily can spend the night there, but in the future I'm not leaving either of my children alone with my sister in law, and I'm not letting Lily spend the night at my inlaws when my sister in law is visiting... and it will be a very very very very long time before I let Jules over there regardless.
I trust my mother in law, I really do, I have a great relationship with her. I honestly do. But I think that it is important to feel listened to and validated. I mean come on, Paul and I are the parents, not them. If we say no to something then guess what... the answer is no. Imagine that...
Now I know and accept the fact that grandparents spoil grandkids. I expect Lily to get to stay up late and watch tv and eat lots of cookies when she is there... heck thats the fun part of having grandparents, right? I know this, I accept it. But come on now, you don't give a nine month old SAKI... are you insane?
Ok maybe I'm writing out of anger, but I think I have a legitimate reason to be upset. I know I'm venting, but honestly everything I've written here, I'd say to her face, so I don't feel bad about it. I know that she loves my kids, but she needs to understand, that they are MY kids well mine and Paul's... NOT HERS.
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